Month: June 2014

Better Late Than Never; ELOQUII & Redbook Event

Yes, I know that I am soooooo late with my account of the ELOQUII and Redbook’s private shopping event in celebration of Full Figured Fashion Week but it is as they say, Better late than never right? And granted there may be dozens of other posts about this on various sites you never got the chance to hear it from me now did you?

Speaking of late, I was late to the event, of course all because I had to go to work that day! (Damn you insufferable need of money!) Which caused some technically issues with wardrobe for the event (Another damn you to Companies Code of Conduct rules stifling my fashion expression!) After wracking my brain for what to wear to the of it and carry during the long day at work, I settled on the Alice & You Grid Print Shift Dress via SimplyBe that I got at the #ShopandSwapNYC event the week before. Talk about great timing.

The event was held in the penthouse suite of The London Hotel in the heart of the tourist central aka Midtown Manhattan and while that can be a nightmare at the best of times traversing the over crowded streets full of sky gazers in the summer heat with multiple bags in 4 inch sling back wedges was a whole new level of tiring. But thankfully I reached without causing permanent damage to myself or any tourists so I would count that as a successful journey!

Reaching the pent house level of the hotel I was pleasantly greeted by members of the event team and was directed to enjoy taking a look at the samples from the ELOQUII’s Line as well as the bar, tarot readings and manicure’s. After snagging myself a refreshing drink from the bar, and navigating through the crush of the fabulously dressed, I headed up to the second floor to see if my interests could be piqued by the line.

That’s where I found it, my fave piece from the entire collection available for viewing, the Studio Embellished Artisan Jacket which is available for purchase on the ELOQUII site. The jacket stuns with its funky print and edgy embellishments, I’m a sucker for metal hardware on anything! Who knew I was such a pro a pattern mixing the lightweight jacket is perfect for early summer in the city and took my outfit from school girl prep to artist chic! This piece is a must-have for my wardrobe!

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Artisan jacket/ Tunic Dress

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Necklace: Old H&M/ Lippy: Ted Gibson Beauty in OLAN

It was great getting to meet everyone from the brand and all my fellow bloggers and plus size models. It was definitely event not to be missed and if you did don’t worry there will be more to see! Of course don’t let that stop you from heading over to ELOQUII to check out all of the other awesome items.

featured image for this post c/o ELOQUII

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Pardon the Delay in the Programming

Hey All,

 

I know it has been a little while since I have posted but to be completely honest things have been hectic on my end. From my day job, to starting this blog and attending events (got the chance to attend an event for Full Figured Fashion Week!) to things at home and new side projects (Videos?) in the works it has become a little overwhelming. So, I had to take some time for myself and take a bit of a mental holiday to just enjoy the sunshine on my face and the wind blowing through my new twists (an experiment, pics to follow soon!) so that is what I have been doing and I am now trying to get back into the swing of scheduling and managing my time to better accomplish my laundry list of things that I need to do.

If you haven’t already you should head over to my new Instagram profile where you can get an up to date look at what I’m doing, eating, baking and seeing. I am still trying to figure this whole thing, not just Instagram but social media as a whole don’t judge me!, out so be patient with me. Honestly it all just has me feeling like an old lady with a hand full of thumbs but there is hope yet or at least that is what my friend Dee keeps telling me. I think she lies but stranger things have happened!

What to look forward to here at The Un-Life:

  1. Review of Ted Gibson’s New Beauty Line!
  2. Coverage from Eloquii and Redbook’s Event for Full Figured Fashion Week!
  3. My #1 Summer Make-up Must Have!
  4. Brooklyn/NYC summer events (Lost Circus and Afro-Punk!

So don’t forget to keep up with all the exciting happenings here at The Un-Life and if you wan’t to check out some of my other opinionated musings check out my posts for Eat More Cake and Fe-line (posting in July, will provide links later) both of which are based out of the UK! Look at me I’m going global ya’ll!


Anticipate!

Sabrina

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The Colored Girls Hustle

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New York City, for all of its crowds, filth and bad attitudes is undeniably one of the most amazing cities in the world. Millions of tourists flood our streets, trains, ferries, parks, restaurants, buses, markets; I’m sure you get the picture we are overrun with tourists from all over the world and different walks of life. But living in the city that never sleeps requires a different sort of skill that you might not have encountered in you hometown; The Hustle, and I assure you everyone in New York City has one or more of them.

Two such New Yorkers who I had the unexpected privilege to meet last night, are Taja Lindley and Jessica Valoris two artists and friends who have come together to create Colored Girls Hustle to inspire women to live their daily lives confidently, creatively and passionately. Now that is something I can get behind!

So, on the Event:

Nestled within a converted Brownstone in Brooklyn owned by the equally amazing women of The Black Women’s Blueprint, a civil and human rights organization for both and women. We sipped on wine and perused the walls covered in tiny bits of history pertaining to the Civil Rights movement here in America (there even was a Coretta Scott King chair, that I ALMOST laid my bags in, The HORROR! Luckily before committing that particular faux pas I noticed the note attached to the seat, whew!) and dotted around the room were beautiful pieces of African Art.

Any who, back to reason why we were all there; the mix tape pre-release listening party, which they called a Mix tapeĀ Listening Salon that really spoke to the intimacy of the event, as they called us all to join the circle together to listen and commune together. Now, I’m not one much for Audience participation but even I appreciated that during their introduction to the mix tape they asked us all to introduce ourselves to the group and share what our Hustle is. Let me just tell you that by this point I had already had a bit of the wine in me (on an empty stomach, as I had just come from work, I am NOT a lightweight!) and so I’m not altogether sure what I said but I definitely got some laughs out of the group, so all in all it was a success.

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The Music:

Set to familiar sound tracks The ColoredĀ Girls Hustle allow us to experience, through their rap stylings, getting Krunk while still being conscientious. The lyrics are at times fun and light-hearted but remain true to its message of highlighting the struggle women face in their sexuality, place in society and their creative expression. To check out their songs, the mix tape is available for free download here

At the end of the evening I can say that Taja and Jessica have a vision and a style of their own are definitely two young women who are about themselves and their art from visual, spoken word, fashion (they also sell jewelry through their site) and performance art while remembering the communities that have reared them. I for one will be keeping my eye out to see what these two get up to next!

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“Catchin’ bullets wit my butt-cheeks” Really? That must be painful….

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#OOTD: #ShopandSwapNYC

This weekend was a very exciting one for me not only did I get to spend Father’s Day with my Dad and sister watching the World Cup (Hot, Sweaty, Foreign men; need I say more?) but also I was able to attend my first Plus Size Event! Shop and Swap NYC hosted by Kellie B of And I Get Dressed along with six other equally awesome bloggers allowed us their devoted fans to shop their closets! There were previews and giveaways galore from sponsors and doesn’t love free goodies? Hello!

Any who, as a recovering frump girl and a new blogger of course it was all about making sure that I had the right outfit something that represented me and who I am as well as something comfortable and weather appropriate, it was a little steamy for a while on Saturday. So here is what I ended up wearing.

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Sorry for the crappy cell pics I will endeavor to do better, I promise!

So, how did I do? I was a little nervous about wearing something so very short but my trusty fashion adviser (my sister) assured me that as long as I NEVER bent down to pick anything up and held the skirt as I climbed the stairs I should be fine.

It’s funny how I never had a problem with my legs until I put on this dress and could really see my legs? But as a recovering Frump Girl I decided it was time to put my big girl panties on and be bold! Honestly, after a few minor mishaps with the skirt blowing up suddenly (thank you MTA!) and just seeing everyone at the event I quickly forgot about all of my insecurities of showing so much leg and even got two more mini dresses! You can see what I purchased on my Instagram as a little preview for what I will feature here.Did I mention I totally won Ted Gibson’s make-up line! (A Review to follow!)

All in all it was a fabulous time filled with beautiful clothes, accessories and women and I can’t wait for the next event!

What I’m Wearing:

Dress: Old Asos
Denim Vest: Old Asos
Jewelry: Purchased from Street vendor in Spain
Shoes: Payless

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Keep Your Comments to Yourself; I’m Eating

We have all been there, especially just after New Years, with our weight-loss and/or fit goals with dreams of that firmed up summer body on the horizon; the countless reps at the gym and meals consisting of rabbit food and bird seed. Let’s be honest no matter if your just looking to tone up or working towards dropping some significant weight, it’s hard work and you are going to need all the support you can get in order to reach and maintain your goals. Or maybe your on the other side where you haven’t committed to loosing weight and are completely content with your body the way it is, which is your right. But sometimes family and friends (who I honestly hope intend well) can cause more harm than good with their comments and questions. Here are a few, comments and questions that I encountered (still do sometimes) that, we could possibly all live without:

1. Should you be eating that?: So you have made your decision to make healthy eating changes and are joining sitting down to eat with a group and decide to treat yourself to some thing and then WHAM! this question comes out of no where to blind side you right before you can even lift the spoon/fork to your mouth for that first bite.

I don’t know why but every time some has asked this particular question it is always accompanied with a look of deep concern. So when you respond with a look of irritation, they always respond with “I’m sorry, I was just asking just trying to help you out” I don’t need your help, thank YOU very much. I got this. I’m grown I know what I can eat and I know what I need to do. So just sit over there and mind your own damn lettuce! Another variation of this question to be weary of is Are you allowed to eat that? And the same response applies!

2. Why don’t we just share? My sisters and I might be the only people in the world who find this particular question not only insulting but irritating as well but still there is no need for it. As children when ever we went out to eat, no matter where it was, will looking at our menus my mother would ALWAYS ask us all what we were getting and then suggest that we split it with her. My mother has dealt with weight issues for as long as I can remember and for just as long she has been constantly monitoring her children eating habits, commenting on our weight and trying to put us on diets. Thanks for the body issues Mom!

No, how about we don’t share? How about we both get our own dishes and if we feel too full to finish them take them home with us (that’s why they have doggie bags, at least if you aren’t in France) I don’t want or need you shaming me about what I’m eating. The reason I am ordering this is because I intend to eat ALL of it, I may if I choose, offer you a bite but I’m not a kid and there is no reason for you to push your hang-ups onto me, thank you very much!

3. Wow you finished all that already? Really?
There is something just fundamentally wrong with this question for me. I mean if my plate is clean then it must have gone somewhere right? I don’t understand some people’s need for mentioning it. All it is a subtle jibe into the side of the person who probably just enjoyed a delicious meal. There is no need for the commentary, this isn’t the Olympics! It is the shock and awe or maybe slight disgust in their voice that really grates. Even if you are model thin or a plus sized people always have something to say about the quantity and speed by which you eat.

4. Is that all your eating? It is as though people can never be satisfied. I encountered this question a lot while I was going through my weight loss, when I had significantly cut my calories and was mainly eating veg and lean proteins. I have also heard people saying this to thin people as well so I figured we could level this one across the board.

Why are your eyes just all in my plate? I know my own body and this is all I want to eat, maybe I don’t like the food here, maybe I had a big lunch, or maybe I’m making some changes in the way that I eat. All you need to know is that this is all I’m willing to commit to for the moment and if I should decide to have more I will do so! Of course on the opposing side there is always the, I think you had enough which I couldn’t even begin to tell you about.

There is a saying in Korean that goes something to the tune of “You don’t disturb a dog while it’s eating” that has never run more true than in the instances where I have been barraged with comments and questions like these. Am I less worthy than that proverbial? Can I not eat in peace without commentary, notations and censure?

If so, then Let’s Just Not Talk While I’m Eating.

What if any questions have pissed you off during a meal? Share, Comment below and let’s start the discussion on Food Shaming!

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I’m Not Your Doormat; 3 Places to Start Speaking Your Mind

Tired of feeling used by family and friends?
Are being disrespected and/or treated like your invisible at work or school?
Has your social life ruined your credit, health, and/or confidence?

If you have answered yes to any of the questions above then it may be time for you get up off the floor and stop being a weak-willed doormat (yeah, I said it!) and start figuring out who you are and what you stand for. Although, this may be easier said than done, keeping quiet because your afraid of people’s reactions hasn’t worked this far so you may as well try something new.

3 Places Where Speaking Your Mind is a MUST:

1. At Home: Wither you are living with room mates, a significant other, by yourself or living with family members; the place you are currently calling home is supposed to be the one place where you can be comfortable being yourself. So, that might mean that it is finally time to have that chat with the one who is leaving dirty socks on every flat surface about the lovely invention of a hamper, maybe you need to show them the wad of hair that you recently released from the shower drain or maybe you have that friend that “only wanted to crash for a few days” but 3 months later has made your living room into an adult fort filled with mysterious scents and creatures of the deep. Has your wholly organic spreads just become the condiment of choice for someone else’s midnight snack? What ever it may be it is time to SPEAK UP and let them know that what they are doing just isn’t really working for you. Life outside your house is stressful enough so why bring that into your house?

“Your not trying to come up, in MY House, with all that”

2. At Work: Finding a job is hard enough in this economy and so when you finally and one it is understandable that you don’t want to “rock the boat” and potentially end up back on the unemployment line but sitting quietly and allowing others to lay claim to your hard work and your ideas isn’t the way to go about it either. When at work go by the old saying “It isn’t what you say but how you say it” there is nothing wrong with having a differing point of view or correcting someone’s oversight but it does require a healthy dose of TACT. So like mothers all over the world have told us about honey flies and vinegar. Tone down the acidic bite and sweeten up your approach in the work place.

“I’m not a Bitch, I just know my own mind”

3. In Your Relationships: Relationships are hard, no matter if it is a sibling, a friend or a significant other, and oftentimes just a quagmire of sticky and often times explosive situations. A way to diffuse these situations is to address them as they arise instead of waiting until your ready to bite someone’s head off because they left the cap off the toothpaste or left the gas tank only a quarter full. Not only is it unfair to them but it is also hard on you. Healthy relationships are built on sharing and understanding each other and telling them about the things that really work your nerves or hurt you is a part of that and again why the added stress in your life? Especially in the relationships that we choose the rule of them is “If you don’t tell them, they won’t know.” So maybe they need to lay off the weight jokes or be less judgmental about your preferences or choices. If they are doing something that hurts you. YOU need to say something about, otherwise the behavior will only continue and who could blame them? People are not mind readers so say something.

“Be BOLD about your shit!”

That being said if you have told them , more than once, that you find a certain behavior of theirs a little hard to swallow and they still continue it may be time to reevaluate if that particular relationship is really necessary in your life. If not, keep it moving, life is too long and too short to be stuck with people who continually make you miserable. Especially early on in romantic relationships, be bold about your shit! If they can’t hang, then it is always best to know early on before someone resorts to a “Waiting to Exhale” moment!

Now that is one woman who could have released some of her pent-up anger!

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Frump Girl Confessional; Lust Lists

Here is just a really quick post about what I am currently working on for the blog and gearing up for a summer of adventure! As I previously posted in the first Frump Girl Confessional I am changing my frumpish ways, not due to thoughts and feelings of others but because I want to and I feel like making some changes.

And when it comes to changes, I believe it is best to start doing a little research, in the case of a wardrobe change, Window shopping! which I will admit is something that I normally hate to do seeing as I am a broke New Yorker who doesn’t really care for; walking around looking at things I can’t possibly afford to have and as a full-figured woman couldn’t possibly fit. But thanks to the internet I can do it from the comfort of home and choices aren’t relegated to what they have at the local mall, Kings Plaza, which is really more suited for the pre-teens who aren’t allowed to go into the city by themselves or for a quick run to the COOKIE HOUSE!(OMG YUM I swear that place is the only thing keeping KP open!)

Anyway, thanks to amazing bloggers like GabiFresh, Hanna, Kelli B, and many many others there is always news about brands that are expanding their ranges and the awesome items that are being offered!

Which brings me to….

Introducing the FGC’s LUST LISTS!
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So how did I do? Not totally hopeless when it comes to fashion right? Now if only they would magically find themselves in my closet….Oh What a Day of Rejoicing that would be!

For information on the items featured on the Lust Lists (until I figure out how to work this dang thing, curse you html!) feel free to click on the image and check out my Polyvore page for pricing and order information as well as other sets that I am putting together!

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A Frump Girl’s Confessional

In starting this blog, I had intended to take the issues that I have been dealing with head on in the hopes that my experiences would help others like myself who may lost their way or were too afraid to try.

And while I have had no issue doling out advice when it comes to; employment (or the lack there of), body positivity and the issues facing Millennials. There is one very real issue to me that I have managed to avoid this far:

I. Am. A. Frump. Girl.

Not that there is anything wrong with enjoying the freedom of elastic waist bands and sports bras nor is it a problem that one’s entire wardrobe consists of sweat pants and T-shirts from when they were a larger size! (It allows for more layering, HELLO!) But to be completely honest, I have not been completely comfortable about it for a while. I even refused to take pictures or go out with friends. At first I thought that after losing some weight I would suddenly be this beautiful/fashionable butterfly and all the boys would want to come to the yard! It didn’t happen that way, sure men noticed my slimmer figure as I walked down the street but and a few even asked for my number and tried to get into my pants! (oh hell no! I’m a lady!) After all of my hard work trying slimming down I still found myself piling on the layers, pulling my hood up and fading into the background of NYC streets.

And it nothing to do with the size on the back of my jeans (when I wore them) but it was a seed that had been planted in my brain sometime ago that if I wasn’t classically beautiful then I was disgusting to look at and so I hid. I am was hiding myself; from the judgmental (maybe just in my mind) eyes of the people on the street, from my friends, from my family and even myself.

Now, I have decided that enough is enough, it is time for me to be Unashamed. Unafraid and Unapologetic about who I am and what I have to say about my personal style and fashion and live up to everything that I say here on this blog! So screw you haters, Sabrina is here!

Which leads to what I hope will be a new series within this blog, following this post of my personal style from A Frump Girl’s Confessional, where I will be digging deep into the back of my closet as well as into my wallet to share my fashion story with you all! Anticipate it! I’m sure it will prove to be very interesting…….. I hope.

Check out my Polyvore page to see what I’m currently drooling over!

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