Tired of feeling used by family and friends?
Are being disrespected and/or treated like your invisible at work or school?
Has your social life ruined your credit, health, and/or confidence?
If you have answered yes to any of the questions above then it may be time for you get up off the floor and stop being a weak-willed doormat (yeah, I said it!) and start figuring out who you are and what you stand for. Although, this may be easier said than done, keeping quiet because your afraid of people’s reactions hasn’t worked this far so you may as well try something new.
3 Places Where Speaking Your Mind is a MUST:
1. At Home: Wither you are living with room mates, a significant other, by yourself or living with family members; the place you are currently calling home is supposed to be the one place where you can be comfortable being yourself. So, that might mean that it is finally time to have that chat with the one who is leaving dirty socks on every flat surface about the lovely invention of a hamper, maybe you need to show them the wad of hair that you recently released from the shower drain or maybe you have that friend that “only wanted to crash for a few days” but 3 months later has made your living room into an adult fort filled with mysterious scents and creatures of the deep. Has your wholly organic spreads just become the condiment of choice for someone else’s midnight snack? What ever it may be it is time to SPEAK UP and let them know that what they are doing just isn’t really working for you. Life outside your house is stressful enough so why bring that into your house?
“Your not trying to come up, in MY House, with all that”
2. At Work: Finding a job is hard enough in this economy and so when you finally and one it is understandable that you don’t want to “rock the boat” and potentially end up back on the unemployment line but sitting quietly and allowing others to lay claim to your hard work and your ideas isn’t the way to go about it either. When at work go by the old saying “It isn’t what you say but how you say it” there is nothing wrong with having a differing point of view or correcting someone’s oversight but it does require a healthy dose of TACT. So like mothers all over the world have told us about honey flies and vinegar. Tone down the acidic bite and sweeten up your approach in the work place.
“I’m not a Bitch, I just know my own mind”
3. In Your Relationships: Relationships are hard, no matter if it is a sibling, a friend or a significant other, and oftentimes just a quagmire of sticky and often times explosive situations. A way to diffuse these situations is to address them as they arise instead of waiting until your ready to bite someone’s head off because they left the cap off the toothpaste or left the gas tank only a quarter full. Not only is it unfair to them but it is also hard on you. Healthy relationships are built on sharing and understanding each other and telling them about the things that really work your nerves or hurt you is a part of that and again why the added stress in your life? Especially in the relationships that we choose the rule of them is “If you don’t tell them, they won’t know.” So maybe they need to lay off the weight jokes or be less judgmental about your preferences or choices. If they are doing something that hurts you. YOU need to say something about, otherwise the behavior will only continue and who could blame them? People are not mind readers so say something.
“Be BOLD about your shit!”
That being said if you have told them , more than once, that you find a certain behavior of theirs a little hard to swallow and they still continue it may be time to reevaluate if that particular relationship is really necessary in your life. If not, keep it moving, life is too long and too short to be stuck with people who continually make you miserable. Especially early on in romantic relationships, be bold about your shit! If they can’t hang, then it is always best to know early on before someone resorts to a “Waiting to Exhale” moment!
Now that is one woman who could have released some of her pent-up anger!