Folks it is Labor Day, also known as the unofficial end of summer, and here in Brooklyn that can only mean one thing; West Indian Day Parade! While I am not normally a reveller of the Parkway madness that is playing mass I thought some of those who have never seen the parade, a look at this year’s costumes. I happen to be lucky enough to live on the “warm-up” route for the parade as the bands start pumping up the music and the crowd on their way to the official start line on the parkway.
Now I tried to keep the images as PG as I possibly could, unfortunately that also meant the best photos could really be included, sucks I know but I tried.
One thing that is undeniable is that as dressed or as undressed as some of the women are, you have to admit seeing all these women of all color, shapes and sizes, strutting their stuff under the HOT sun (if you happen to be Jamaican -H for accurate translation, ha ha ha!) is inspiring, so take a lesson and ring out the summer with confidence!
One thing I have to admit about NYC is that there is never a shortage of people, both young and old, chasing the dream! From the street hustler’s dancing in the subway cars to the old dudes shuffling cards on the sidewalk. Everyone here is chasing some dream and it is an inspiration to be amongst them.
Last weekend I had the opportunity to meet an up and coming designer Hye Sun Mun at the Kai D boutique, (Can you call it a boutique if it offers menswear? Anywho), in Williamsburg to take a closer look at her women’s line. I was originally called out to assist on her video shoot to promote her line but it was great to see her at work styling her models and learning more about the whole process of shooting promotional videos.
While her line isn’t exactly what I would call full-figured friendly; its flowing lines and old world feel will have droves rushing to buy her pieces. I managed to get a couple of pics during the shoot to give you a behind the scenes look:
Kai D Store Front window in Williamsburg Trying to sneak in a pic here, ha Model in the Colleen Dress, in fore ground
Since I was already out and about on the Williamsburg water front helping out with the shoot, I figured I may as well gets some snaps of myself and why not? I had gotten early too!
I can’t wait to see the final product for the shoot but I know either way it was great meeting a few fellow dream chasers and I look forward to whatever pieces Hye Sun Mun cooks up for the next season. Maybe I can talk her into a larger size range…hmmm.
We will see what happens next. Until then!
Ladies, what would you give to finally reclaim your body, age, skin from the grasp of the clutches of the world we call fashion? Would that kind of power and confidence change you? Would you change yourself in order to gain it?
What if I told you that you didn’t have to change a single thing about yourself physically, and all you had to do was just put fingers to keys and look at how they world and others like yourself are trying to change its self?
Would you spread the word in order for others to have that same power?
Has your curiosity been peeked? Great read on!
For those of you who haven’t heard I would like to introduce you to the #StopTheBeautyMadness campaign made up of a series of advertisements illustrating a different “madness”. The project, gives a voice to all of us to finally say, ENOUGH with impossible beauty standards that we never feel we can measure up to and have been literally, killing ourselves to achieve.
And while there are some who might see this as just another group of “fat” women condoning obesity, or whatever other crap the nay-sayers are spewing this week. You would be well informed to know that NO Stop The Beauty Madness does not only expose the issue of the larger waistlines but also; those who are naturally thin, ageism, and racism. So get your facts straight and support an amazing note worthy cause.
Don’t forget to check out the campaigns website for more information on ways to get involved and sharing your voice with this amazing group and get connected socially!
This hopefully won’t be the last you read about this project here at The Un-Life, I’m hoping that I might get the chance to have a guest blog or interview with them myself, here is hoping that it works out!
*featured image sourced from #stopthebeautymadness home page*
Yes, I know that I am soooooo late with my account of the ELOQUII and Redbook’s private shopping event in celebration of Full Figured Fashion Week but it is as they say, Better late than never right? And granted there may be dozens of other posts about this on various sites you never got the chance to hear it from me now did you?
Speaking of late, I was late to the event, of course all because I had to go to work that day! (Damn you insufferable need of money!) Which caused some technically issues with wardrobe for the event (Another damn you to Companies Code of Conduct rules stifling my fashion expression!) After wracking my brain for what to wear to the of it and carry during the long day at work, I settled on the Alice & You Grid Print Shift Dress via SimplyBe that I got at the #ShopandSwapNYC event the week before. Talk about great timing.
The event was held in the penthouse suite of The London Hotel in the heart of the tourist central aka Midtown Manhattan and while that can be a nightmare at the best of times traversing the over crowded streets full of sky gazers in the summer heat with multiple bags in 4 inch sling back wedges was a whole new level of tiring. But thankfully I reached without causing permanent damage to myself or any tourists so I would count that as a successful journey!
Reaching the pent house level of the hotel I was pleasantly greeted by members of the event team and was directed to enjoy taking a look at the samples from the ELOQUII’s Line as well as the bar, tarot readings and manicure’s. After snagging myself a refreshing drink from the bar, and navigating through the crush of the fabulously dressed, I headed up to the second floor to see if my interests could be piqued by the line.
That’s where I found it, my fave piece from the entire collection available for viewing, the Studio Embellished Artisan Jacket which is available for purchase on the ELOQUII site. The jacket stuns with its funky print and edgy embellishments, I’m a sucker for metal hardware on anything! Who knew I was such a pro a pattern mixing the lightweight jacket is perfect for early summer in the city and took my outfit from school girl prep to artist chic! This piece is a must-have for my wardrobe!
Necklace: Old H&M/ Lippy: Ted Gibson Beauty in OLAN
It was great getting to meet everyone from the brand and all my fellow bloggers and plus size models. It was definitely event not to be missed and if you did don’t worry there will be more to see! Of course don’t let that stop you from heading over to ELOQUII to check out all of the other awesome items.
I know it has been a little while since I have posted but to be completely honest things have been hectic on my end. From my day job, to starting this blog and attending events (got the chance to attend an event for Full Figured Fashion Week!) to things at home and new side projects (Videos?) in the works it has become a little overwhelming. So, I had to take some time for myself and take a bit of a mental holiday to just enjoy the sunshine on my face and the wind blowing through my new twists (an experiment, pics to follow soon!) so that is what I have been doing and I am now trying to get back into the swing of scheduling and managing my time to better accomplish my laundry list of things that I need to do.
If you haven’t already you should head over to my new Instagram profile where you can get an up to date look at what I’m doing, eating, baking and seeing. I am still trying to figure this whole thing, not just Instagram but social media as a whole don’t judge me!, out so be patient with me. Honestly it all just has me feeling like an old lady with a hand full of thumbs but there is hope yet or at least that is what my friend Dee keeps telling me. I think she lies but stranger things have happened!
Coverage from Eloquii and Redbook’s Event for Full Figured Fashion Week!
My #1 Summer Make-up Must Have!
Brooklyn/NYC summer events (Lost Circus and Afro-Punk!
So don’t forget to keep up with all the exciting happenings here at The Un-Life and if you wan’t to check out some of my other opinionated musings check out my posts for Eat More Cake and Fe-line (posting in July, will provide links later) both of which are based out of the UK! Look at me I’m going global ya’ll!
Here is just a really quick post about what I am currently working on for the blog and gearing up for a summer of adventure! As I previously posted in the first Frump Girl Confessional I am changing my frumpish ways, not due to thoughts and feelings of others but because I want to and I feel like making some changes.
And when it comes to changes, I believe it is best to start doing a little research, in the case of a wardrobe change, Window shopping! which I will admit is something that I normally hate to do seeing as I am a broke New Yorker who doesn’t really care for; walking around looking at things I can’t possibly afford to have and as a full-figured woman couldn’t possibly fit. But thanks to the internet I can do it from the comfort of home and choices aren’t relegated to what they have at the local mall, Kings Plaza, which is really more suited for the pre-teens who aren’t allowed to go into the city by themselves or for a quick run to the COOKIE HOUSE!(OMG YUM I swear that place is the only thing keeping KP open!)
Anyway, thanks to amazing bloggers like GabiFresh, Hanna, Kelli B, and many many others there is always news about brands that are expanding their ranges and the awesome items that are being offered!
Which brings me to….
Introducing the FGC’s LUST LISTS!
So how did I do? Not totally hopeless when it comes to fashion right? Now if only they would magically find themselves in my closet….Oh What a Day of Rejoicing that would be!
For information on the items featured on the Lust Lists (until I figure out how to work this dang thing, curse you html!) feel free to click on the image and check out my Polyvore page for pricing and order information as well as other sets that I am putting together!
In starting this blog, I had intended to take the issues that I have been dealing with head on in the hopes that my experiences would help others like myself who may lost their way or were too afraid to try.
And while I have had no issue doling out advice when it comes to; employment (or the lack there of), body positivity and the issues facing Millennials. There is one very real issue to me that I have managed to avoid this far:
I. Am. A. Frump. Girl.
Not that there is anything wrong with enjoying the freedom of elastic waist bands and sports bras nor is it a problem that one’s entire wardrobe consists of sweat pants and T-shirts from when they were a larger size! (It allows for more layering, HELLO!) But to be completely honest, I have not been completely comfortable about it for a while. I even refused to take pictures or go out with friends. At first I thought that after losing some weight I would suddenly be this beautiful/fashionable butterfly and all the boys would want to come to the yard! It didn’t happen that way, sure men noticed my slimmer figure as I walked down the street but and a few even asked for my number and tried to get into my pants! (oh hell no! I’m a lady!) After all of my hard work trying slimming down I still found myself piling on the layers, pulling my hood up and fading into the background of NYC streets.
And it nothing to do with the size on the back of my jeans (when I wore them) but it was a seed that had been planted in my brain sometime ago that if I wasn’t classically beautiful then I was disgusting to look at and so I hid. I am was hiding myself; from the judgmental (maybe just in my mind) eyes of the people on the street, from my friends, from my family and even myself.
Now, I have decided that enough is enough, it is time for me to be Unashamed. Unafraid and Unapologetic about who I am and what I have to say about my personal style and fashion and live up to everything that I say here on this blog! So screw you haters, Sabrina is here!
Which leads to what I hope will be a new series within this blog, following this post of my personal style from A Frump Girl’s Confessional, where I will be digging deep into the back of my closet as well as into my wallet to share my fashion story with you all! Anticipate it! I’m sure it will prove to be very interesting…….. I hope.
Check out my Polyvore page to see what I’m currently drooling over!
Here is another question I found on my new favorite site XoJane, this one from a young woman trying to figure out the basics of dressing to impress when your body type may be less than impressive:
I need help managing my image. Externally, I mean. Internally, I’m happy with how I “look,” so to speak, but externally, I feel like a total slob. It might sound a little arrogant, but I’d like if my appearance, fashion-wise, could be as cool as I think I am…
The problem is, I’m totally clueless about dressing myself. I know what looks good on other people, however when it comes to my own clothes, I always find myself unsatisfied. My body shape is kind of odd in that I’m a bit taller than average, slim, and very top heavy. I don’t feel comfortable in tops that show off my cleavage, nor in bottoms that reveal too much of my long legs. I also dislike baggy clothes, or clothes that cover up too much. No matter what I’m wearing, either I feel like I’m being unprofessional and revealing too much of my body or unfeminine because I’m completely covered up in something unflattering.
The clothes I’m most comfortable in are skinny jeans and men’s white undershirts: in that sort of outfit, my legs get accentuated a little, and the curves on my chest are neither completely invisible nor directly in anyone’s face. But I know I can’t wear those clothes out, and to be honest, I’m a little embarrassed of them. I want to look like a put-together, confident woman. My clothes don’t do me justice, and it’s completely my own fault.
I don’t really like accessories, make-up, or cute hairstyles. I’ve always been pretty tomboyish, in the sense that I don’t like to spend too much time getting ready; I’m definitely a throw-it-on-and-go kind of girl. I like dresses and skirts, but I feel like they show too much of my body, so I can’t really wear them. I also like to feel like I can run if I need to (what if there’s a spontaneous butterfly that needs chasing?), so skirts that are too long or too tight are no good for me.
To me, my body is a very private thing. I love showing myself off to my partner, but I don’t want the world staring at me and seeing too much. At the same time, I want to look the best that I can, and I know that at this point I just don’t. How can I dress myself better? Please give me some advice.
Despite you saying at first that you are “happy with the way you look” it doesn’t really come across as such in the rest of your statement, there is just a whole lot of negativity going on in there that I think you may want to re-evaluate. We all know that we are our own worst critic don’t be too hard at your reflection in the mirror.
Now remember that there are parts of everyone’s body that might not be “ideal” I mean come on not even the Human Barbie naturally has the perfect body and not everyone has the means or conviction to go under the knife. So how do people do it? How do they manage to put themselves together day after day as they go out to face the world? Fashion, which doesn’t mean that you need to stalk the runway or buy pricey duds but it does mean learning about what works for you and your body.
You say that you are top heavy with long slim legs, next you go out shopping try on the popular Peplum tops to pair with your favorite skinny jeans and a cute heels or flats. It is an easy grab-and-go addition to your wardrobe and what it also does is create balance and a feminine shape for your body.
Another item that you might want to explore is the A-Line midi skirt. It too with give you a fuller bottom half as well as give you some modesty while still being comfortable and easy to wear matched with a Graphic tee and a pair high-top All Stars or light loafers with a leather jacket.
The point is you can’t be afraid of trying new things. Each time you go shopping make it a point to try something that you wouldn’t normally go for. I mean what is the worst that can happen? You put it on and you don’t like it? Fine take it off and try something else, no biggie! Also if your shopping with a friend bring someone who is supportive of you, will give you an honest opinion and whose style you admire. So leave your man at home and work it out!
Your style should always say something about you, and why should it say anything but “I am fabulous, confident and I make this look easy!”
Don’t forget to check out xoJane for more questions like this and other fun and informative articles!