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Taking a Step Back

As most of you who are familiar with my blog already know it has been a few years since I have been active on social media. So I decided to write briefly on why decided to take a step back from blogging and being active in social media, what has brought me back in the end and what plans I have going forward.

Square Pegs and Round Holes….

I will be honest here. When I started this blog I had grand ideas about how easy it would be to get on here and just write some posts about fashion and body confidence and that would then catapult me to internet stardom! it didn’t really work out that way. It was a lot of WORK, there was the planning of content and then there was becoming a social presence on other apps and sites so that people would actually come to the blog! Who knew and why hadn’t I been warned before this was just supposed to be easy ,right? Other than learning what really has to go into running a successful blog I also learned that what people really want to see is content that I (the writer) am genuinely interested in writing about…and let me just admit here a fashionista I am NOT! I can appreciate pretty clothes and a well put together outfit but following trends and the like is just not what I do. Basically I am more of a: “Is it clean? Does it match? Sweet, we are good to go!” kind of person in the morning and so while you might still see a few outfit of the day posts here that will just be about it, so you have been warned! 

 

The Home Situation…..

Was not great at that time. Literally, the week of my last post back in 2014, my dad (who I was living with) lost his job and we were at the time barely keeping our heads above water already with mortgage payments etc. To add to that stress, what we weren’t aware of that time was that my dad was/is dealing with some serious health issues that has essentially made him dependent on “me” financially. So I had to get a job that actually paid something that could at very least support myself AND help him. Thankfully, that situation has been mostly resolved at this point and I am in a better place on that front and I have made some health decisions that you might find interesting for myself as well (more on the blog about that later). I guess the point in me mentioning it now is to say that I had never intended that this blog would become a diary of my life. You know we have to become careful or selective in the amount and kind of information that we choose to share on the inter-webs and so I had hoped that it would have only been a short break while that situation resolved itself and then I would be back….HA!

 

Finding Balance….

So I got the new job that I needed and got my dad and home life settled and don’t get me wrong I really enjoy my new position but can I tell you it has been work learning everything that I need to know (still don’t know everything almost 2 years on), creating the processes, making the contacts, doing the travel etc. But you know when you look at people who have jobs, family, schooling on top of their plates and they some how STILL find the time to pursue their own personal outlets/interests and you are just looking at them thinking, where do you find the energy?

 

It has to be more than these super-people like doing all this “extra” stuff because I am sure they like sleep as well, right? What I can say for myself at least putting in all these hours into working alone leaves me feeling a little empty. Being creative feeds me mentally and spiritually and gives me a sense of control of my life. So it is all about getting to a place where I feel satisfied in my life and still can pay these bills…

Unless someone out there is volunteering? 🙂  So what that means, going forward, I am hoping to re commit to this blog! So look forward to more posts; we will have some laughs and some adventures and look forward to sharing with all of you what I am up to now and the changes and plans I have been making in this The Un-Life

Until next time!

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Back at it again……

Hey There!

Long time no speak/read (not really sure which one) Any who, it has been a long time, something like 3 years I am sad to say….. but I am happy to say that The Un-Life, that would be me, am back and ready to start writing and creating again!!!! We all know that life can sometimes get crazy and that is exactly what happened. As much as I would like to believe that I would never succumb to the pressures of: family, life, and even finances– life sure showed me who was boss and I had to come to the conclusion that I too, am only human and sometimes the best thing to do is take a step beck to regroup in order to continue forward.

So here I am back at it again and hopefully you will all join in on this adventure!

I will keep it short for now but keep tuned!

Until next time!

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Reflecting on the Journey to Here

As we spend our days and nights tirelessly pursing our dreams of a grander, more purposeful life it can be quite easy to get caught up in the end goal and forget to truly experience the present. It is something that every one struggles with; it is something that I am currently trying to navigate.

I have always been a planner; complete step A then on to B,C,D etc. Even with starting this blog I envisioned penning a few posts and then having to field constant invites from people who; want me to attend their events, promote their cause, wear their clothes and sit down for interviews. The Un-Life would have been my key to that magical land of sufficient money, opportunities and recognition. So I started with my introduction to the world, hey it’s me take notice before you miss out on all the greatness that is Sabrina! I seemed to have shouted across social media and NYC but things didn’t happen quite as I had intended and because I am but a mere human filled with flaws and all I begun to feel as though, once again I had missed the mark.

It wasn’t until last weekend at a dinner party that my sister had thrown in her bit of greenery in Brooklyn, that I was playing co-host to #SingleGirlProblems (with two artsy couples in attendance.) With the spirits flowing, the food eaten and the mosquitoes biting that the conversation seemed to all center on me and what kind of art I was into. Before this, we had heard about E’s amazing bag line that is being re-conceptualized into luxury wallets (more on this to follow, I hope), B’s sojourn to NYC to go to grad school for his MFA, JE and M’s freelance work as graphic designers and the admittedly awkward party they attended at MOMA recently and everyone knew that S (my sister, not me) is working in production and we had recently done the shoot for her designer friend HYE SUN MOON as mentioned in a previous post. So you might be able to imagine how ardently I wanted to impress this group with my projects to feel like I was actually doing something in comparison.

So I started, “I’m a writer; I’m currently working on a novel (sort of) and I have a new blog.”
B: “What kind of blog is it?”
ME: “I like to call it a “Life and Style” blog. That way I can write about what i think is relevant to my life but I can also do some style segments, book reviews, travel, millennial issue things as well.”
B: “That’s cool. Have you done any other kind of writing?”
ME:” Yeah, I used to write plays, even put up three shows in a year once a couple of years ago. HA!”
M: “Wait three shows?”
ME: “Two here in NYC and one in San Francisco”
B: “How did you end up in San Fran?” (his hometown as it happens)
ME: “It was really funny actually, I happened to see a call for submissions and before my good sense could kick in I submitted not thinking anything would come of it. Then I got the email for acceptance and had a panic attack.” This of course was met with a round of laughter.

M: “That must have been crazy organizing and getting everything together for all of the shows, wow I can’t even imagine what that must have been like.”
ME: “Not to say that I would do it again but I don’t know if I would say it was really that crazy but it was definitely an experience, I will say that for sure, I learned a whole lot.”
E: (who had been leaning quite heavily over the side of her chair this whole time and trying to fix herself another burger) Wait how old are you again?
ME: 25. This of course was followed by, She’s a baby! and what not because the average difference between me and everyone else at the table is about 9.25 years

I don’t want to come across here as asking for people’s awe and praise for what I have done in my life or anything like that I just want to make it clear but it was in that conversation with people who didn’t really know me and my own personal struggles with finding my “calling”, finding work and doing more than just “surviving that I had to take a step back and say to myself, “Hey, I have done a lot. I have something that amazes these people, I have accomplished things I can be proud of.”

And that is the point that I want to drive home with this post, although you and I have not accomplished all that have intended to (the end goal) and we are maybe just trying to figure things out to get through today; do yourself a favor and take a moment, today to reflect on all of things you HAVE accomplished, remember to take stock of hard lessons you have had to learn along the way and give yourself a big pat on the back because, you deserve it.

Alright crazy kids, it’s Friday!

Until next time!

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Indie Go-Go & Indie Chick Magazine

I just wanted to do a really quick post about a new note worthy cause. The Indie Chicks are an amazing group of mainly women, I did peep a gent or two on their author’s page, that have banded together to help women strengthen and empower themselves and each other. With stories, advice and tips that really matter. You won’t find too many of the “20 Tips to Blow Your Partner’s Mind” here but what you will find is a resounding message of self-acceptance and empowerment that can sometimes be lacking in today’s media.

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What started as an online magazine has quickly grown with The Indie Chicks premiere In-stands Issue just this past summer (maybe you have seen it at you local bookstore and didn’t know what it was about, well…now you do!) but they need our help to keep spreading their message and getting a Fall issue out.

Your Call to Action:
+ Check out TheIndieChicks.com and check out how they are helping others unleash their inner bad ass

Like what they have to say?

Visit their IndieGoGo page and make a pledge. If you can’t donate money that is okay, I understand. Follow them on social media, grab a button and help spread the word to your network about a Note Worthy Independent Cause that is worth supporting!

Until next time,
Sabrina

 

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#OOTD: #ShopandSwapNYC

This weekend was a very exciting one for me not only did I get to spend Father’s Day with my Dad and sister watching the World Cup (Hot, Sweaty, Foreign men; need I say more?) but also I was able to attend my first Plus Size Event! Shop and Swap NYC hosted by Kellie B of And I Get Dressed along with six other equally awesome bloggers allowed us their devoted fans to shop their closets! There were previews and giveaways galore from sponsors and doesn’t love free goodies? Hello!

Any who, as a recovering frump girl and a new blogger of course it was all about making sure that I had the right outfit something that represented me and who I am as well as something comfortable and weather appropriate, it was a little steamy for a while on Saturday. So here is what I ended up wearing.

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Sorry for the crappy cell pics I will endeavor to do better, I promise!

So, how did I do? I was a little nervous about wearing something so very short but my trusty fashion adviser (my sister) assured me that as long as I NEVER bent down to pick anything up and held the skirt as I climbed the stairs I should be fine.

It’s funny how I never had a problem with my legs until I put on this dress and could really see my legs? But as a recovering Frump Girl I decided it was time to put my big girl panties on and be bold! Honestly, after a few minor mishaps with the skirt blowing up suddenly (thank you MTA!) and just seeing everyone at the event I quickly forgot about all of my insecurities of showing so much leg and even got two more mini dresses! You can see what I purchased on my Instagram as a little preview for what I will feature here.Did I mention I totally won Ted Gibson’s make-up line! (A Review to follow!)

All in all it was a fabulous time filled with beautiful clothes, accessories and women and I can’t wait for the next event!

What I’m Wearing:

Dress: Old Asos
Denim Vest: Old Asos
Jewelry: Purchased from Street vendor in Spain
Shoes: Payless

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Follow me on Blog Lovin’

JUST AN UPDATE: I am so happy to have finally joined Blog Lovin’ and hope that this can the beginning of an amazing journey reaching and connecting with lost more people!

SO click the link and follow me and many other amazing bloggers: Follow my blog with Bloglovin

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Hello world!

Like many of you twenty somethings out there; I too am struggling to find my place in the world (and let me tell you it has been a struggle) from weight loss to weight gain, unemployment to landing the “for right now” job and falling victim to the “I hate my job but I need to eat this month” blues.

I know it all! I have been there, I am STILL there most days.

Let me tell you something, it is not a good look.

I know there are a lot of us out there who believed in that dream of graduating from college and then landing a dream job to then move into your own place and start your fabulous life!

How has that been working out for you? Me? Not so good.
What did we work so hard for? All those years of schooling and LOANS seem as though they were for nothing now.

This blog is dedicated to people like me who are ready to reclaim there dreams and work for a better life all while taking the time to reflect on the lessons learned and draw inspiration from what is around us.

So let’s raise our glasses to the life unexamined and told just like it is UNAPOLOGETICALLY!

My name is Sabrina and I will be your tour guide.

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